Victims and Survivors of Psychopaths

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Verbal Bulimia and the Art of Over Disclosure

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by Sandra L. Brown, M.A.    (re-printed on VOP with permission of the author)

The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction, and author of How to Spot a Dangerous Man and Women Who Love Psychopaths.
http://www.saferelationships.com

I wrote about it in my Dangerous Man book, rediscussed in Women Who Love Psychopaths, and frequently remind everyone in the newsletters and yet I stll see this embarrassing behavior among women that not only sounds GROSS to anyone else listening, but also puts her at tremendous risk amongst pathologicals.

Years ago when I had a few psychopaths in group, I asked them how they picked out their “targets” and from the mouth of babes they said, Read the rest of this entry »

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March 22, 2009 at 7:12 pm

Psychopath? How Bad?

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“I’ve seen people sit around with the list of traits from the PCL-R and decide from that quick-hit perusal that an acquaintance or spouse is a psychopath.  A clinician who takes the disorder seriously would not do that.” Katherine Ramsland, chair, Social Sciences at DeSales University and author of The Human Predator.

Approximately 1% of the population is thought to be psychopathic, yet:

 –Psychopaths commit more than 50% of all serious crimes –

-Half of all law enforcement murdered in the line of duty were killed by a psychopath

–Approximately 1 out of 5 persistent domestic abusers are thought to be psychopathic

–50% of all serial rapists are thought to be psychopathic.

Although criminal behavior tends to go hand in hand with psychopathy, not all psychopaths engage in criminal behavior that is grounds for arrest.  Or if they do, Read the rest of this entry »

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March 22, 2009 at 1:32 am

Half brother wants sex, engages in smear campaign, tries to have victim falsely arrested

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The psychopath and his/her impersonal, concienceless views on sex, along with the quest for retribution when thwarted and the lengths they will go to get it is demonstrated by Yogi, who posted the following comment under the blog titled “Momma?  She’s in the freezer”.   (I have high lighted certain sentences for emphasis).”

yogi // January 29, 2009 at 4:22 am (edit)

I had a sociopathic half brother try to have innapropriate relations with me after I found him in my early thirties and he also tried to get me arrested by stating I attacked him and was belligerent and scratched him too – because I would not go along with being in a relationship with him. He made sure I lost my job and started fights with me there after I got him hired, because after I met him he Read the rest of this entry »

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February 5, 2009 at 11:12 pm

Been arrested or almost arrested due to the Psychopath?

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In reading various message boards I am struck by how many people have been falsely arrested during their involvement with the psychopath, and also how many people were “almost” arrested or investigated due to the psychopath making false allegations against them.  And the most striking thing is that some of these psychopaths have a rap sheet (although not necessarily of violent type crimes) a mile long, while most of the victims have no arrest record at all until they get caught in the psychopath’s web.  If this has happened to you, please comment below.  Or if you would like to tell your story in full length as a featured post (it can be as long as you want as I can break it down into multiple posts), please email:  VOPvictims@yahoo.com

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February 5, 2009 at 10:44 pm

“Sunshine’s” Comments to “Why Sex Binds”

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A poster using the handle of “Sunshine” made some comments on the page titled, “Why Sex Binds”.   After reading her description of her sexual relationship with an obviously dangerous man and her honesty in the effect it had on her, I felt her story should be brought up front for a post of its own.  I believe many who have been involved with a sociopath or psychopath can identify with Sunshine’s feelings.   Sunshine’s comments:  

So.. So true! I was once involved with a dangerous man in my late 20’s. 3 years of hell. He went to jail for 9 mos. Stalked, strangled and beat me too.  I know this may sound sick, but at the time the sex seemed out of this world Read the rest of this entry »

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February 5, 2009 at 9:29 pm

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Homepage: APD, Sociopath, or Psychopath?

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Currently these three disorders fall under the diagnosis of APD in the American Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM).  In the ICD-10, the diagnostic reference book developed by the World Health Organization, and accepted throughout Europe, these disorders fall under the diagnostic category of Dissocial PD.

The “psychopath” was the first disorder formally recognized by psychiatry.  In 1952 the word “psychopath” was officially replaced with “sociopath PD”, however, both words were often used interchangeably.  In 1968 “sociopath PD” was replaced with “personality disorder antisocial type”.  But the word “psychopath” is used extensively in the companion volume, Treatment Psychiatric Disorders, published in 1995 by the American Psychiatric Press.  The PCL-R (psychopathy checklist) is considered an integral part of forensic psychiatry. (Cook, 1997).

For researchers, due to the need for accuracy and precision, the terms “sociopath”, “psychopath”, and “APD” have different meanings.   Although most psychopaths meet the diagnostic criteria for APD, most people with APD do not meet the criteria for the psychopath.  APD is a condition commonly found in criminal populations.  The diagnosis is focused more on behavioral aspects, rather than personality traits.

On the surface, the sociopath may resemble the psychopath, but the sociopath can have a capacity to build relationships and to feel some degree of guilt or remorse over harming someone they care about.  They may feel loyalties to certain groups, such as gangs or the mafia, and will refrain from lying and exploiting within that group.  But they care nothing for social norms, have no loyalties to society at large, and will break the rules of society.  So, the sociopath will exhibit psychopathic type behavior in some contexts, but not in others.

The psychopath does not feel guilt or remorse, and must meet the criteria of the PCL-R psychopathy checklist.  Dr. Hare compared the “sociopath” and the “psychopath” as having a “cold” versus having “pneumonia”

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January 28, 2009 at 11:39 am

Gas lighting: Messin’ with your mind

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 Gas lighting is written about in Women Who Love Psychopaths:  Inside the Relationships of Inevitable Harm.   J. Reid Meloy writes about it in The Psychology of Stalking:  Clinical and Forensic Perspectives.  The term “gas light” comes from the 1944 movie Gaslight, in which a gold-digger sweeps a woman off her feet, marries her, then deliberately sets about making his new wife and other people doubt her sanity.

Gas lighting is a form of psychological warfare that is deliberate and progressive in nature.  Gas lighters first start with subtle psychological warfare to diminish the victims self-confidence, to upset their sense of reality, and to make them doubt themselves.  They want to break the victim down a bit before engaging in more direct attacks, so the victim is in a weakened state and will be less likely to figure out what is going on and take action to protect themselves. Read the rest of this entry »

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January 27, 2009 at 7:03 pm

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