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Verbal Bulimia and the Art of Over Disclosure

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by Sandra L. Brown, M.A.    (re-printed on VOP with permission of the author)

The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction, and author of How to Spot a Dangerous Man and Women Who Love Psychopaths.

I wrote about it in my Dangerous Man book, rediscussed in Women Who Love Psychopaths, and frequently remind everyone in the newsletters and yet I stll see this embarrassing behavior among women that not only sounds GROSS to anyone else listening, but also puts her at tremendous risk amongst pathologicals.

Years ago when I had a few psychopaths in group, I asked them how they picked out their “targets” and from the mouth of babes they said, Read the rest of this entry »


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March 22, 2009 at 7:12 pm

Psychopath? How Bad?

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“I’ve seen people sit around with the list of traits from the PCL-R and decide from that quick-hit perusal that an acquaintance or spouse is a psychopath.  A clinician who takes the disorder seriously would not do that.” Katherine Ramsland, chair, Social Sciences at DeSales University and author of The Human Predator.

Approximately 1% of the population is thought to be psychopathic, yet:

 –Psychopaths commit more than 50% of all serious crimes –

-Half of all law enforcement murdered in the line of duty were killed by a psychopath

–Approximately 1 out of 5 persistent domestic abusers are thought to be psychopathic

–50% of all serial rapists are thought to be psychopathic.

Although criminal behavior tends to go hand in hand with psychopathy, not all psychopaths engage in criminal behavior that is grounds for arrest.  Or if they do, Read the rest of this entry »

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March 22, 2009 at 1:32 am

Half brother wants sex, engages in smear campaign, tries to have victim falsely arrested

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The psychopath and his/her impersonal, concienceless views on sex, along with the quest for retribution when thwarted and the lengths they will go to get it is demonstrated by Yogi, who posted the following comment under the blog titled “Momma?  She’s in the freezer”.   (I have high lighted certain sentences for emphasis).”

yogi // January 29, 2009 at 4:22 am (edit)

I had a sociopathic half brother try to have innapropriate relations with me after I found him in my early thirties and he also tried to get me arrested by stating I attacked him and was belligerent and scratched him too – because I would not go along with being in a relationship with him. He made sure I lost my job and started fights with me there after I got him hired, because after I met him he Read the rest of this entry »

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February 5, 2009 at 11:12 pm

Been arrested or almost arrested due to the Psychopath?

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In reading various message boards I am struck by how many people have been falsely arrested during their involvement with the psychopath, and also how many people were “almost” arrested or investigated due to the psychopath making false allegations against them.  And the most striking thing is that some of these psychopaths have a rap sheet (although not necessarily of violent type crimes) a mile long, while most of the victims have no arrest record at all until they get caught in the psychopath’s web.  If this has happened to you, please comment below.  Or if you would like to tell your story in full length as a featured post (it can be as long as you want as I can break it down into multiple posts), please email:

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February 5, 2009 at 10:44 pm

“Sunshine’s” Comments to “Why Sex Binds”

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A poster using the handle of “Sunshine” made some comments on the page titled, “Why Sex Binds”.   After reading her description of her sexual relationship with an obviously dangerous man and her honesty in the effect it had on her, I felt her story should be brought up front for a post of its own.  I believe many who have been involved with a sociopath or psychopath can identify with Sunshine’s feelings.   Sunshine’s comments:  

So.. So true! I was once involved with a dangerous man in my late 20’s. 3 years of hell. He went to jail for 9 mos. Stalked, strangled and beat me too.  I know this may sound sick, but at the time the sex seemed out of this world Read the rest of this entry »

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February 5, 2009 at 9:29 pm

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Homepage: APD, Sociopath, or Psychopath?

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Currently these three disorders fall under the diagnosis of APD in the American Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM).  In the ICD-10, the diagnostic reference book developed by the World Health Organization, and accepted throughout Europe, these disorders fall under the diagnostic category of Dissocial PD.

The “psychopath” was the first disorder formally recognized by psychiatry.  In 1952 the word “psychopath” was officially replaced with “sociopath PD”, however, both words were often used interchangeably.  In 1968 “sociopath PD” was replaced with “personality disorder antisocial type”.  But the word “psychopath” is used extensively in the companion volume, Treatment Psychiatric Disorders, published in 1995 by the American Psychiatric Press.  The PCL-R (psychopathy checklist) is considered an integral part of forensic psychiatry. (Cook, 1997).

For researchers, due to the need for accuracy and precision, the terms “sociopath”, “psychopath”, and “APD” have different meanings.   Although most psychopaths meet the diagnostic criteria for APD, most people with APD do not meet the criteria for the psychopath.  APD is a condition commonly found in criminal populations.  The diagnosis is focused more on behavioral aspects, rather than personality traits.

On the surface, the sociopath may resemble the psychopath, but the sociopath can have a capacity to build relationships and to feel some degree of guilt or remorse over harming someone they care about.  They may feel loyalties to certain groups, such as gangs or the mafia, and will refrain from lying and exploiting within that group.  But they care nothing for social norms, have no loyalties to society at large, and will break the rules of society.  So, the sociopath will exhibit psychopathic type behavior in some contexts, but not in others.

The psychopath does not feel guilt or remorse, and must meet the criteria of the PCL-R psychopathy checklist.  Dr. Hare compared the “sociopath” and the “psychopath” as having a “cold” versus having “pneumonia”

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January 28, 2009 at 11:39 am

Victim, when asked about her Mother: “Momma? She’s in the freezer.”

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Mobile, Al.  Assistant District Attorney, Asheley Rich, said, “The (victim) stated when he first had sexual contact with her he explained that it was normal and described to her and told her in detail the story of Lot from the Bible.” Clinical psychologist, Michael Rosenbaum, says that it is characteristic of a sexual predator to manipulate their victims, and that Mr. Hopkins  also abused his faith to get his way. “He obviously used that story and arbitrarily interpreted it, as a way to influence his daughter so that she would think his having sex with her was normal,” Rosenbaum said. He also states a predator will use whatever they can to influence a child.

Anthony Hopkins, age 37, a traveling minister in Mobile, Al., was arrested on 7/28/08 at a church in Jackson, Al. after preaching a revival sermon on “Forgiveness”.  He was charged with murder, sexual abuse, rape, sodomy, and incest. He was turned in by his 19 year old daughter, the eldest of eight children, whom had fled the home and talked to police attached to the Child Advocacy Center. Her Father had been raping her since she was 11 years old.

Hopkins, his wife, and children had lived in Jackson, Al. in 2000 and 2001 before moving, saying there were resettling in New Orleans. Daniel Maharrey said he and his wife knew the Hopkins when they lived in Jackson, and had helped feed their children. He said: “He (Hopkins) was not a Preacher. He was a man that was going to use whoever for whatever gain he could get out of life.” He also said Hopkins had put out letters saying people would be cursed if they did not give him money.

While still living in Jackson, in 7/2001, Hopkins filed a domestic violence report against his wife, Arletha, claiming she attacked him while he was attempting to leave for work, calling her “belligerent” and claiming she scratched him. (This tactic of blaming the real victim and filing charges against them or setting them up to be arrested should sound familiar to many victims of psychopaths). He had already begun raping his daughter approximately one year prior to the DMV allegation.

In talking to police, the victim told them she had been having sex with her Father (for 8 years). When asked about her Mother, she said, “Momma? She’s in the freezer.” On approximately 11/04/04 Arletha Hopkins caught her husband abusing the daughter in the bathroom of their home. The daugher stated this led to an argument between her parents and the next morning her Father asked her to help hide her Mother’s body in the freezer. Police believe Hopkins strangled Arletha during the argument.

According to police, it turns out the freezer wasn’t the victims first grave. Hopkins first tried to hide the body in a wooded area in Semmes. According to a detective, Hopkins had his daughter watch as he dug the grave, then had her help lift her Mother’s body into the shallow grave. (now imagine the fear instilled in this daugher as to what would happen to her if she dared to go against her Father’s wishes). He later got worried someone would discover the body, so he dug up Arletha and brought her home and stuffed her in the freezer. She remained in the freezer for nearly four years.

At the time of the arrest, Hopkins and his children hadn’t been residing in Mobile for very long. But they brought the freezer along with them to their new residence. Hopkins neighbors said they didn’t know him well–just knew him as a “Reverend”, and that his children were allowed to frequently play in the yard, but were not allowed to play with other children on the street. A “missing person” report had never been filed on Arletha, and Hopkins told people his wife had died four years earlier while giving birth to their son.

Hopkins has pled “not guilty” to all charges.


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January 27, 2009 at 6:28 pm