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Gas lighting: Messin’ with your mind

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 Gas lighting is written about in Women Who Love Psychopaths:  Inside the Relationships of Inevitable Harm.   J. Reid Meloy writes about it in The Psychology of Stalking:  Clinical and Forensic Perspectives.  The term “gas light” comes from the 1944 movie Gaslight, in which a gold-digger sweeps a woman off her feet, marries her, then deliberately sets about making his new wife and other people doubt her sanity.

Gas lighting is a form of psychological warfare that is deliberate and progressive in nature.  Gas lighters first start with subtle psychological warfare to diminish the victims self-confidence, to upset their sense of reality, and to make them doubt themselves.  They want to break the victim down a bit before engaging in more direct attacks, so the victim is in a weakened state and will be less likely to figure out what is going on and take action to protect themselves. Read the rest of this entry »


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January 27, 2009 at 7:03 pm

Book Review: Women Who Love Psychopaths

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Women Who Love Psychopaths: Inside the Relationships of Inevitable Harm by Sandra L. Brown, M.A. & Liane J. Leedom, M.D.  Brown is the CEO of The Dangerous Relationships Insitute and Public Psychopathy Education Project. She has previously counseled psychopaths and now focuses on their victims. Leedom is a psychiatrist who was conned into marriage with a psychopath, so she has first hand knowledge of the psychopathic love relationship. Her ex husband, who was motivated to ”bring down a Doctor” is now in prison. Although this book focuses on women who have been involved with psychopathic men, it is also highly applicable to men who find themselves entangled in psychopathic relationships as well. Read the rest of this entry »

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January 27, 2009 at 5:58 pm